I like to think that life is nothing more than organised chaos. We have specific goals, aspirations, and tasks we need to achieve throughout our lifespan. But those wonderful ambitions we set are not always within our control; we can either delay things or procrastinate and leave the task until the last minute. Other times we may miraculously get more done and strike whilst the iron is hot. On a rare occasion, there’s the time when we want to pack it all in and run towards the hills because we fantasize about having a slightly easier life.
This is part of the human experience; the uncertainty, the doubt, the self-belief that you can see something through until the end, the learning, the pain and discomfort, and the joy of completing the goal. All part of the chaos.
Recently I opened up my social media page to promote my new book. I got caught up in wanting to be liked for all my posts and focused highly on analytics by looking at my follower rate. This is very similar to how life works in many aspects; we want the end result now, and we want to be liked now. Then we end up giving up quickly because we are focused on the expectation rather than the hard work required to build.
I quickly realised that this is a process, one where it’s about loving to build as a lifelong thing. The by-product becomes success over time, but that is totally out of your power of control. So, focus on the meaning and the quality rather than metrics and likeability.
So, when we focus on organised chaos, it’s more about having a strategy and plan of action to execute the goal. Anxiety stems when we are either fearful or doubt our abilities to get from A to B.
You can do a few things to prevent this from happening; develop your skillset on the task. For example, if you want to become better at presentation, learn the techniques, and improve over time. Secondly, ask for professional and certified help, especially ask help from people who have been in your shoes and overcame any setbacks.
The acceptance is that you will at times be at unease, dissatisfied, and slightly irritated at some point in your life, but it makes the journey of life special.
There would be no change if life were robotic, as life would get pretty boring quickly.
Psychological Flow
It doesn’t have to be chaotic all the time because chaos is essential for attaining clarity in the mind’s eye.
Chaos happens especially:
- When we start something new, that can be overwhelming
- When we are challenged to take a new route,
- We are stubborn and set in our ways
- when we have to go back to the drawing board and start all over again
It’s not all doom and gloom; focus more on getting a steady flow. Develop a good routine that aligns with the goals you set out and concentrate only on high productivity.
If you focus on the output regularly and alternate as you go along, you can get more done in less time.
Then you will have a flow to your week, month, and year. It is important to note that both the skill set and challenge of the goal should align, meaning that you should achieve the task based on your strengths and ability. The challenge shouldn’t be too difficult or easy; it’s just right (Goldilocks rule). Then your happiness will be measured by progression.
The Chaos
Chaos is part of life; there is no cosmic magic universe telling us our destiny when it comes to purpose. Therefore, chaos allows us to learn, seek the new and remove the waste.
Chaos thrives on uncertainty, sees unique opportunities and chips away at the old to get better.
Learn to love unpredictability instead of fighting it.